'When you hate my wife, you've dishonoured me' – Agyinasare tells church members

Bishop Charles Agyinasare has told the congregation of Perez Chapel International that “when you hate my wife, you have dishonoured me”.

Teaching them about ‘The Reward of the Man of God’, the Presiding Bishop said one of the ways to honour the pastor is to “love and care for his spouse”.

“Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?” he quoted 1 Corinthians 9:5 to make a point.

He said “apart from Paul and a few other Apostles who were not travelling with a wife, other Apostles travelled with their wives”, noting: “Marriage in the Bible makes husband and wife one flesh”, therefore, “to honour the prophet will necessarily mean honouring the wife”.

Bishop Agyinasare said: “You cannot love Christ without loving the Church”.

Similarly, he argued, “you can’t love the pastor without loving the spouse”.

“In many instances, pastors’ wives or spouses are relegated and not treated so well. Some are even seen as rivals who don’t deserve their place”, he complained, adding: “This can have a telling effect on the home life of the pastor”.

One way to honour your man of God, he proposed, “is to love and cherish the wife and children”.

According to him, “when pastors see that their wives are loved and cared for, they relax, feel confident and appreciated, and give their all to the work”.

“Many churches”, Bishop Agyinasare observed, “grieve the pastor because the church sees his children as competition”.

“Many associate pastors see the children of the senior pastor as the cause of their lack of promotion.

“Many pastors are afraid to use or allow their children to function in the church because they are afraid the associate pastors would kill their children”, he disclosed.

Additionally, he said: “Many pastors handle a church they know does not love them and their family”.

“When their children falter, the people are happy to spread it and use it to accuse them. When the pastor’s wife has a problem, they would quickly accuse her of witchcraft.

“Many pastors’ children don’t want to do anything in their father’s church because they can feel the animosity.

“The pastor has to harden his face and heart to his surrounding to use his children.

“When pastors see their families being loved and accorded respect, they also feel confident and appreciated”, he said.