How To Deal With A Selfish Boyfriend

1. Try to understand him.Try to identify the reasons behind your boyfriend’s behavior. Maybe a tough childhood or other circumstances made him this way. Notice if he is the same with everyone. Try to talk to him about his behavior and attitude. If he is willing to be more considerate of your feelings, you can consider continuing. Otherwise, you may have to re-evaluate your relationship. But remember, if you want a happy and successful relationship, you should understand what you want and then give him the opportunity to change himself.

2. Love yourself too.When in love, it is easy to lose yourself and start living for someone else. But it is not the right approach. Unless you do not love yourself, no one will love you. We teach people how to treat us based on what we put up with. So, take a step back and see if you have been neglecting yourself lately. If yes, take measures to pamper yourself and learn to give more attention to yourself. Do not make a selfish person the center of your life; instead, focus on yourself and your well-being.

3. Do not justify his selfish behavior.When you know your boyfriend is lying or disrespecting you, call him out for it. Do not try to explain his selfish behavior to console yourself. Your attachment might make you want to believe his lies, but remember, it would not work for the long term. But remember to be calm. If you get angry, you might not be able to handle the situation.

4. Support your case.When you confront your guy, chances are he might get defensive. Selfish people will often defend themselves fiercely and try to blame you. It’s better not to talk and give time to each other before everything becomes a mess. You have to try and make him see his mistakes. Do not accuse him but explain how his actions affect you.

5. Lay down some rules.If you want him to change, start by laying down some rules. For instance, he cannot control you or expect unrealistic things. Ensure that the rules are fair, clear, and equal for both. Even if your boyfriend agrees to change, it will not be possible for him to change overnight. Go easy on him and be clear on what is acceptable and not.

6. Take some time off.If you feel he is acting too selfish, take some time away from him. Concentrate on your work and focus on your health. Tell him why you need a break. Make him understand how his actions can hurt you. Give him some time to contemplate his actions.

7. Don’t allow him to take you for granted

People often tend to become selfish when they know their partner will never leave them. Do not let him think this way about you. Give him a hint that if he continues to take you for granted, you will walk away.

8. Do not lose your self-respect.Sometimes, people tend to stay in an unhappy relationship due to wrong assumptions or think they are weak. For instance, you think you will not get a guy better than him, and so you adjust while maintaining a façade around you. If this is your case, it is high time you work on your weakness and stop compromising your self-respect.

9. Walk away. If even after you have tried talking to him and doing everything possible to save your relationship, he still doesn’t respect your feelings, walk away. Do not trade your happiness with some crumbs of a supposed companionship.

Even if you decide to walk away from your selfish boyfriend, do not hate him for being so. Do not point fingers at him or accuse him of anything. Try to have a clean breakup and make him understand why you two are not compatible. Part ways amicably and live your life on your terms because you deserve so much better