Things To Avoid That Make People Dislike You

As humans we have good and bad habits; however; some bad habits can alienate us from people; if we do not change them.

There's a saying that goes; 'old habits die hard' that is because most people do not even realize they have bad habits.

All it takes is paying attention to how you behave around people.

The following 10 habits should be avoided; because they make people dislike you:

1) Always being late 

This is a sure way to get on people's nerves. This gives the impression that you do not respect people's time.

Make an effort to be punctual by setting your clock five or even ten minutes early. Prepare your things (clothes; bag; lunch; etc) the night before. 

Set an alarm to get you going when it is time to leave the house. Call people to let them know if you are running late.

2) Constantly being negative 

Nobody likes a 'Debbie Downer'; a person that constantly looks at the negative side of life. 

Though it is normal to be negative sometimes; based on the bad days; we encounter now and then; constantly focussing on the worst-case scenarios; tends to rub people the wrong way.

Negativity tends to be contagious; people hate to have their moods dragged down; by negative people or wallow in pity parties.

Count your blessings and practice gratitude for what you have.

 3) Being fake  

No one likes insincere and fake people. Pretending is exhausting so our true colours tend to show up unexpectedly.

Be yourself and stay true to yourself. The truth of the matter is that; not everyone is going to like you; especially the genuine you; it is fine. However; by being yourself; you attract people who genuinely like your personality.

4) Being self-centered 

Stop making everything about you. Learn the habit of give and take in a conversation. Give the person you are talking to a chance to share their exciting news.

Do not make conversations one sided; all parties to a conversation need to show an interest in each other.

When you find yourself rambling about the amazing weekend you had; remember that others also had a weekend and woild like to share their experiences.

Do ask questions; be attentive and do not interrupt. 

5) Getting into people’s business 

Do not pry; asking questions as mentioned in the previous point; does not necessarily mean that you must dig into people's personal business.

Do not be intrusive it makes people uncomfortable; more especially if you do not know the person that well.

Avoid being inquisitive; it makes people dislike you; no matter how genuine your concern is.

Allow people to open up to you in their own time; and give them privacy to do so.

6) Being a bad listener 

Listen! Most people lack listening skills; it gets annoying when they ask you about something you just told them; proving that they were not paying attention.

Do not interrupt people while they are talking. Pay attention and stop looking at your phone. Stop jumping to conclusions before clarifying issues of discussion.

Never yawn or appear to be uninterested; worse off; do not doze off while someone is talking to you. 

People like to be heard and understood; it makes them feel good. No one wants to make friends with someone who does not value their input. 

7) Gossiping 

This is the worst bad habit that people like to engage in. People like to discuss other people's problems in order to forget their own.

Though everyone gossips from time to time; if it becomes a habit; it also becomes a problem and people avoid a well-known gossip.

Gossipers are two faced people who cannot be trusted. They end up being given unsavoury names.

Most are known as people who were kicked in the chest by a horse; no secret stays in their chest. Stay away from gossip or gossip mongers.

8) Being inconsiderate 

Not being thoughtful or caring or considerate of those around you; causes people to deslike you.

Small gestures like walking through a door and not holding it for the person behind you; to wearing white dress to your best friend's or sister's wedding are borderline self centered and inconsiderate.

Being inconsiderate says; 'I do not care'; hence you are not prepared to accommodate anyone's needs; likes; or desires; it's all about you.

Use empathy when interacting with others. Remember to set reminders on your phone; so that these will alert you to special occasions; like birthdays anniversaries etc. 


 9) Being untidy 

Do not be messy; especially if you share your space with others.

In yhe ofgice; clean up your space remove unsightly dirty coffee mugs and look very professional. 

The same way; your family or housemates; will be annoyed by picking up after you! 

Clean up your clutter everyday because it can pile up and become a bigger mess.

Look after your personal hygiene too; comb your hair; bathe or shower; put on some roll on; brush your teeth. Look decent and professional at all times.

10) Being loud 

Depending on where you are; it is important to speak with your inside voice when you are indoors and increase your volume when you are outside or when you must do so.

Speak in your undertones when you're at the library; church or restaurant; speaking loudly may cause an annoyance to others.

Do not call attention to yourself by being loud; it makes you look uncivilised. Practise lowering and increasing your voice in different settings.