Club Mate Blog of Monday, 20 March 2023
Source: Club Mate
John (not his real name) is a thirty-four-year-old man who has been struggling with an addiction to sleeping with older women for three years. His addiction began when he was just fourteen-years-old, when he started sleeping with the family's house help. This experience opened up a new world for John, one that he found very appealing and that kept pulling him back for more.
The allure of sleeping with an older woman was that it allowed John to feel something he couldn't find anywhere else. He felt a sense of freedom, fulfillment, and even power by engaging in a sexual relationship with someone considerably older than himself. He was also drawn to the physicality and the feeling of being desired by an older woman.
But as time went on, John's addiction began to take a toll on his life. He was unable to maintain relationships with other younger women and found himself feeling increasingly empty and directionless. He was no longer able to find the same joy and satisfaction in mere physical contact, and this caused him to become increasingly reliant on sleeping with older women.
John began to believe that he was incapable of having a meaningful relationship with someone his age and became deeply ashamed of his addiction. He was afraid that if anyone found out, they would think he was disgusting or strange. He eventually sought out professional help and began to take steps towards overcoming his addiction.
One of the most difficult aspects of John's recovery journey was coming to terms with the emotional and psychological reasons that led him to become addicted in the first place. Through his therapy sessions, he eventually came to realize that he had been seeking validation and acceptance from the older women he was sleeping with, as a way of compensating for the lack of self-confidence he felt.
Today, John is in a healthier place and is able to have relationships with women his own age. He still has moments of doubt, but he is proud of the progress he has made and is happy to finally be in control of his life.
John's story is a powerful reminder that addiction does not define us, it is an issue that can be overcome with hard work and commitment. No matter the cause or extent of our addictions, it is always possible to take control and find a better, healthier way of living.