What Men Are Thinking When They Shower You With Compliments Early On

When you meet a man who shares compliments generously, it can be an incredible thrill and deeply flattering. Who doesn't want to be adored and listen to the reasons somebody thinks they’re amazing?

Sometimes you go through such a long dry spell between guys that hearing sweet compliments from a man can be one of the most soothing elixirs for your heart. It's almost addictive if your love tank is empty and you've been alone for a long time — you simply soak up the flattery and enjoy the attention.

When a guy compliments you a lot, you might be asking, "What do I say?" If you have trouble responding to compliments, that's normal, as a lot of people feel differently about receiving compliments. You could respond by saying thank you and then compliment him back as most men actually love when women compliment them. But when a guy showers you with compliment after compliment when you first start getting to know each other, it's natural to question his true intentions.
1. He wants to get you into bed.

Let's think about it... Why would a man shower you with compliments? What could he want? Hmm...

As you might be starting to realize the obvious, flattery can be highly seductive. Women who haven't had romantic attention in years are often the most susceptible to charming men who know what they want to hear.

How do they know? It's not rocket science!

He knows you want to feel pretty, special, and desired. He says the sweetest things, so you lower your guard and let him into your world — and bed.

You want to believe he thinks you're “the one” he’s been looking for and that he'll stick around to make you happy.

But if you hear a run of compliments coming at you faster than what seems normal, think twice! Chances are he wants to get you into bed quickly. Then maybe he'll see you again a few times, or maybe not.
2. He's a narcissist or control freak.

Another possible reason for a shower of compliments early on is that you've met a man looking for a woman who will quickly fall for his flattery. That's his clue she's likely to be someone he thinks he can control.

This manipulative technique is called “love bombing.”

Men who love-bomb will chase you like crazy, saying they want to be with you every minute, seeing you every night and all weekend long. They tend to rush the relationship along and want to be exclusive right away.

You might catch yourself thinking, “Wow he's really into me! This is almost too good to be true!”

Anytime you think something along these lines, that's your big red flag warning you that it is, in fact, too good to be real.

Once a controlling man feels the relationship is established and he has won you, you'll notice a huge change in his personality as he drops the Mr. Nice Guy act and starts telling you what to do.
3. He might be deeply insecure.

Men who shower you with compliments from the word go aren't all bad. Sometimes a guy is so shocked that a fabulous woman like you is giving him the time of day that his nerves cause him to blurt out all the things he's thinking about you as he thinks them.

It's exciting to imagine a man might be thinking complimentary thoughts about you. But when he spits them all out one after another, saying how beautiful you are — going on about your eyes, hair, figure, and more — he may actually be showing you his insecurity. He may be hoping to win you over by expressing every positive aspect about you that has captured his attention, but this is often a huge turn-off for a confident woman who realizes something isn't quite right.