I heard my female neighbour moan and it broke me – Jealous married man writes

A heart broken married man has taken to reddit to voice out his frustration and jealousy anytime he hears his female neighbour moaning during sex because he don’t get to enjoy that.



He wrote,

I heard my female neighbor moan and it broke me

My (29m) wife (29f) and I have been married for 8 years, and together for 11 years now, and have no children (trying but my wife has been diagnosed with endometriosis, so it’s difficult).

Our couple went through very very difficult times in the early stages but our very good communication has made our love stronger with time, and it just seems unbreakable at this point.

She is honestly the love of my life, and I know she loves me as well. She’s beautiful, smart, and is just… the perfect wife on a lot of points, except… the difference in our sexdrive levels is driving me insane (mine is very high, and hers is very low). When we have sex it is amazing. Kind of silent because she doesnt moan but still, she and I enjoy it a lot (at least it’s what she’s telling me + she ends up very very wet almost all the time, and we’re very open so not sure why she would lie), but for us to have sex I practically had to beg…

We were our “firsts” or each other, and in the beginning of our relationship it was very difficult for me to contain my frustration about not having sex more often, so we talked about it and tried to find a solution (this was more than 5 years ago).



First, she said it was due to the pill messing with her hormones, so we agreed to her stopping it and I agreed to wear a condom. We had sex a little more often, but still it was always me initiating; and not enough to really satisfy me.

Then, she said we weren’t creative enough (in the beginning almost no foreplay); so I began going down on her. She enjoys it a lot (at least when she let me… again always have to ask 3-4 times to let me do it).

Then I thought maybe it was because of my slight overweight (I was 100kg for 1,85m); so I decided hitting the gym for her and tried to look good, smell good all of it… I lost weight, gained some muscle, but it didn’t help …

All this time I just was patient, and tried to understand her (now still) and be supportive and comprehensive… when my urges raises and I feel she’s not wanting to, I just rub one out – for which I feel awful btw. I do it secretively, and I’m sure she would be mad at me for doing it if she knew; but anyway…



Fast forward some months ago, new neighbors moved in above us. A couple, no kids, probably our age… and when they have sex, she moans really hard. Our appartment walls are just big enough to hold some of the noise, but when I first heard her moan; it just broke something in me. She woke me up at like 2 AM and I couldn’t close my eyes anymore. I heard it, thought it was something else, heard it again; and I felt so miserable. I think I never felt so bad in my entire life. And it happened since, multiple times, and every time, I just have to leave the bed and go sleep on the couch because I can not bear the sound of her moaning. It triggers my envy/jalousy so much, it disgusts me from myself…

I always thought my wife was the problem, but now, I start to feel like maybe it’s my sexdrive that is not normal… And I feel so trapped by my love for her… I do not want to leave her because she is the love of my life, and I’m not sure grass will be greener elsewhere anyway… and I’m on the verge of breaking because my physical satisfaction is so low…

I just don’t know what to do anymore…
Whether you guys have advice or not, if you read all of this thank you…

just had to get it out of me…